The festive season is over, funny how this is meant to be the ‘season of goodwill’ with pictures of happy families, children playing nicely and extended family being welcomed around the table, filled with a perfect roast turkey and all the trimmings. However, the reality for many is very different, many couples find that they are spending enforced time together with few distractions, the children may not be happy or well behaved. Extended family are not always welcome and can be difficult and it can be a financially stressful time buying presents and extra food. It can be a recipe for disaster that often boils over. So it’s not surprising that January is the busiest month for new divorce applications.
You may or may not be surprised to hear that the first working Monday in January is consistently THE most popular day for drawing the line in the sand in an unhappy marriage. But why?
It’s believed one of the main reasons January is so popular is because couples are reluctant to break up the family just before or during Christmas and New Year. It doesn’t look very good to be suing your spouse for divorce while you sit around the Christmas tree. Also when there are children involved you don’t want to risk spoiling Christmas or their memory of it for future years. Others can use the festive period as a make or break situation to see if it’s worth giving the marriage one more go.
Is it just a coincidence that according to the dating website Match.com, the country’s largest dating website, with over 3 million members, sees around a 38% jump in registrations between December and February?
Other smaller factors that could play a part in the breakdown of a marriage is the weather, it’s pretty miserable this time of year. As well as the next big date being Valentine’s on the 14th February. The ‘day of love’ can make a person think hard about the partner they have chosen to be with.
” 42% of Marriages End in Divorce “
Shockingly more than 42% of marriages end in divorce in the UK (Source, Office for National Statistics). There are five main reasons for people to have legal grounds for getting a divorce in the UK.
– Unreasonable behaviour
– You have lived apart for more than 2 years (both agree to divorce)
– You have lived apart for a least 5 years (if partner disagrees to divorce)
Couples in the UK can currently file for divorce after separation following just one day apart. Compare that to Australia where the couple need to demonstrate the marriage has broken down by 12 months of separation. Some question whether it is too easy to divorce in the UK, on the other hand you’d have to question what the point of making it harder or having to wait longer would be? No one decides to end their marriage or partnership on a whim, it comes after much sole searching, mental consideration of the benefits and drawbacks. To make the decision that it is over and cannot be saved is difficult enough, why make the actual process harder?